I get so sick of reading all of the nonsense about supposed sexual harassment and “inappropriate” touching, etc… much of it after many years of silence.
What’s the big deal? I see lots of virtue signaling now, by people who didn’t seem to care enough before it was suddenly fashionable to pile on unprovable accusations and claims.
I was raped by a high school classmate, on an date, and I couldn’t tell you his name now if my life depended on it. I lived through a dark period, went to some counseling, and then got on with my life.
My mother made very sure that I knew how to protect myself from such things from that point on. And it is pretty simple. Don’t put yourself into a position to be molested by anyone, male or female. And if it happens anyway, don’t tolerate it! That can mean reporting it to family or officials, or slapping his silly face.
Years later, I was working in a grocery store and wound up in the dairy cooler with the boss. He tried to hug me, and touched my rear end affectionately. I slapped his face and told him, in no uncertain terms, that his attention was not appreciated.
When he tried it again several days later, I told his wife. Serious repercussions, of course, since she even tended to blame me for it! But I would have been responsible for continued unwanted attention if I had chosen to remain silent. Yes, he was responsible for his own actions, of course. But it was my obligation to defend myself regardless.
I had to find another job. No fun, and it could have been serious if I hadn’t known someone else who decided to hire me. I never regretted the change of jobs, and I never allowed anyone to abuse me that way again.
So, while we hold the “dirty old men” accountable for their actions, the objects of their abuse must take responsibility for their own choices as well.
If you are about to be raped, be prepared to defend yourself realistically. Shoot the bastard, if at all possible. If you are touched or propositioned by a dirty old man, slap his face and stop putting yourself in his way. And never put yourself deliberately in such a dangerous position again, of course.
Casting couch “rape?” Oh please. Sounds much more like quid pro quo.
Take full responsibility for your own life and actions. Nobody can “harass” you if you don’t let it happen.
It is as simple as that.