By MamaLiberty
The dedication page of my new book reads: To the man I had to shoot to save my life.
Yes, you read it right. I’ve already had to shoot a man in self defense. Here’s the story.
In 1982 I was living alone at the edge of a small desert town in Southern California. It wasn’t the best of neighborhoods and I was moving the very next day to a better area. Sometimes your luck just runs out.
I woke up about midnight, hearing angry voices outside at the back of the house. There was no fence and people often wandered around at night, but their argument seemed to be escalating and getting closer so I got up and put on a robe. My little dog was barking up a storm.
Looking out the front window, I saw a man standing by the front door of my car on the street, obviously trying to get into it and well illuminated by the full moon.
I got the shotgun and opened the door a crack, then shouted at the man to get away from my car and go away. He just looked at me and went on trying to get into the car.
Then I made a big mistake.
I walked out onto the sidewalk, closing the door behind me to keep the little dog from getting out.
At that point the man started to walk toward me, in a few words telling me just how he would hurt me. I raised the shotgun, but he just sneered and said confidently, “you won’t shoot me” and kept coming.
He was still too close to my car, so I aimed the .410 shotgun just over his head and pulled the trigger.
I saw the shocked look, just before I saw the blood on his face and chest where the tiny #6 birdshot had hit him. He turned and ran away, destroying a low ornamental fence in the process, but never even slowing to untangle it from his legs.
Elapsed time? Probably not more than half a minute from the time I walked out the door until he fled. The time between his sneering comment and pulling the trigger? Probably a few seconds. The car was no more than 20 – 25 feet from the door.
Emergencies happen fast. I basically had a choice between shooting at him or being killed, with not much time to make up my mind. I was lucky to have the gun, to have taken it to the door with me, and lucky to know something about firing it. Some miracle had made me keep it loaded the two years since I’d left the farm where it had been used on squirrels and other varmints.
Shaking and almost sick to my stomach, I went back into the house and locked the door… made sure every window was locked and took a long hot shower. I had no phone, so could call nobody. Since the sheriff’s office was 32 miles distant, calling them would have been a joke anyway. Everyone in that town just had to live with that fact. I never did report it, not being at all sure what their reaction would be. He obviously didn’t die, and didn’t report it either.
Eventually I went back to bed and tried hard not to think about any of it. As with most things we don’t want to face, I mostly succeeded.
It was almost 25 years, and a few self defense classes later when I realized all of the mistakes I’d made and how close I came to death or terrible injury that night. I was very, very lucky things turned out as they did. And he was very lucky I hadn‘t aimed that gun straight at him.
What were my mistakes?
1. I went from a relatively secure position in the house to a seriously exposed position on the front walk. I basically cut off my only avenue of retreat when I shut the door.
Since there had been others arguing with him only minutes before, there was every reason to suspect he was not alone and that others could have attacked me from behind. It just never crossed my mind… Actually, I was sure he would run away as soon as I shouted, or at least as soon as he saw the gun.
Once I was under attack, understanding my peril and scared to death, I suffered from “tunnel vision.” I was completely unable to see or hear anything but the threat in front of me. I probably no longer even heard the dog barking furiously in the house. This is very common under such stress and can only be overcome with serious training and practice.
2. My gun held only one shell at a time, and I had no others with me. If he had continued to attack after I’d foolishly shot over his head, he would probably have killed me. It is highly unlikely I’d have had time to reload anyway.
3. My major mistake was in confronting him, without knowing what to do and especially without an adequate weapon.
So, should we all just cower in the house or allow ourselves to be attacked and robbed? Only you can answer that for yourself. I did what I thought I had to do at the time, and I would again. If there is a next time, however, I won’t make the same mistakes.
In the course of my training I’ve given this all a great deal of thought. I was amazed and unhappy to discover that many of the handgun and self defense classes seem to ignore or gloss over one of the most important parts of helping people prepare for just such an encounter: practice on your own.
Skills take time to develop and a class or two for a few hours can begin the process, but can’t provide the ongoing practice required to cement those skills into the reflexes and muscle memory needed for fast, effective action under stress. If you understand how the mind and body works under this kind of stress, you’ll understand why you must be prepared to react instead of trying to remember what it is you’re supposed to be doing or agonizing over a decision when you may have only seconds to live if you don’t ACT immediately.
This book of practical exercises grew out of that perceived lack. These are the exercises I do myself on a regular basis, and teach to all of my classes. I believe that these exercises could make the difference between a successful defense and death or serious injury. It’s too important not to at least consider.
A man (or anyone) who attacked me today would face a calm, confident, prepared and VERY well armed woman – any time of the day or night. I would hope that he was able to perceive his disadvantage and just go away.
Some would, and some would not.
His choice.
I’ve already made mine.
[The book, “I Am NOT A Victim” is no longer available.]
Libertarian Commentary on the News #12-50B: Culture wars and more
A medley of news this morning!
Nazgul-in-chief? – Culture wars|Justice Ginsburg: We Need An All-Female Supreme Court
(CNSNews.com)
Nathan et al: Stupid! My younger son agrees with her; he says that is great, so that the country can tear itself apart even faster. (He points out that one reason females tend to end up in the lower parts of society is because they act so stupid when in authority!) Debby points out we need a fair and honest court, and that isn’t going to happen, whatever sex they pretend to be. Do Nazgul have sexes? Ah, for self-governing instead of having these blackrobes and all their ilk.
Mama’s Note: Tell younger son that it is the exercise of power over other people that generates stupidity, regardless of gender. Nobody should have that power, of course.
Congress in action – Theft by government
Read Sen. Levin’s Lips: Republicans Must Break Their Tax Pledge
(CNSNews.com)
Nathan: As do several other GOP types: they are more greedy for power and wealth than for honor and ethical behavior. They seem to think that people are even more stupid than we are.
Culture wars: No Xmas – Europe’s Fall
Sweden’s Dreaming of a Gender-Neutral Christmas
(CNSNews.com)
Nathan: Must be friends with that idiot of an governor of Rhode Island and Providence Plantations. He ticked everyone off last year by renaming a Christmas Tree a “Holiday Tree” (supposedly to be “inclusive in honor of Rhode Island’s traditions” but THIS year, he just gave up on the tree-lighting ceremony entirely. Now, I recall from elementary school that Sweden’s big contribution to Euro-American Christmas traditions was Santa Lucia – who just happens to be one of the relatively few female characters involved with Northern European Christmas. (Of course, I have always understood that the entire idea about Christmas was that a virgin FEMALE gave birth to a Son – so what is there that needs to be made “gender neutral?” This is another example of the Tranzi mindset: majoring in minors and minoring in majors.
Mama’s Note: Seems to me that the people of the world have one or two problems that do not involve the gender of their holiday figures, but far too many people are thus easily distracted.
Stupid government – First Citizen’s minions
Republican Critics of Susan Rice Ease Opposition to Naming Her Secretary of State
(CNSNews.com)
Nathan: Ah so – I think the GOP is trying to see just how many different ways they can wimp out: it appears that the GOP is going to finally and officially roll over and do anything the White House and their “opponents” want – instead of just sneaking around and doing it.
Mama’s Note: Well, I’m sure that will be a big relief to all of those politicians who just hate sneaking around… Oh, wait!
Nah… I doubt there will be any real reduction in sneaking, just perhaps some new sneaky agendas.
Theft by government -Government-ruined, Theft-funded schools
One Third of Schools Receiving Stimulus-Funded ‘Student Improvement Grants’ Showed Declines
(CNSNews.com)
Nathan: Duh! You get more of what you subsidize. You subsidize school failures and guess what! You get MORE school failures. For too many teachers, not just the union goons, it is all about the money. How do you maximize the money you get to control (not just your salary and benefits)? By FAILING so that the politicians (backed by a stupid electorate) throw MORE money at you.
East Asian Front – Stupid government
S. Korean Defense Minister on N. Korea: ‘Confront Them with a Club and Defeat Them’
(CNSNews.com)
Nathan: Do I hear a wee bit of frustration in this? Imagine if it were North and South Dakota divided by a DMZ with families split on both sides: family members in the North starving to death or nearly, and freezing in the winter because the elite take all the wood and coal, while in the South we are comfortable and prospering: the night lights up only on the south side of the border. The temptation to end the suffering in the North would be very great.
Meanwhile, the Chinese Communist Party did not understand that The Onion is a satirical publication and was making fun when they declared Kim Jong Un the “sexiest man alive” and put out a special 50-page photo spread of the poor geek (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2239121/China-newspaper-The-Peoples-Daily-accidentally-declares-Kim-Jong-Un-sexiest-man-alive.html) What fun! Communist apparatchiks have NO sense of humor.
Mama’s Note: Oh, this is hysterical. I’ll bet, however, that some Chinese editor somewhere is seriously contemplating the afterlife. These folks don’t seem to have much of a sense of humor.
Home Front
Gun Violence Rising in Media not in Reality
(Political Outcast) An increase in reportings by the media of gun-related violence does not mean that there has been an actual increase in incidents. In fact, violent crime in the U.S. (murder, rape, robbery and assault) actually went down four percent in 2011 compared with the previous year. It’s been going down for the past six years, and last year was the lowest it had been since 2006. It’s dropped twelve percent since then. Naturally, since the Left will never concede intellectually on the gun control debate, the one thing they can do is just report more incidents to give the impression that more guns equals more crime.
The other side of the coin is that gun ownership is up. Forbes pointed out that call-ins to the National Instant Criminal Background Check System (NICS) have steadily increased over the past decade: ”Over the last 10 years (from 2002 to 2011) there has been a 54.1 percent rise in the number of NICS checks and the increase hasn’t all taken place since 2008. In 2005 there were 8,952,945 NICS checks. In 2006 the number topped 10 million. In 2007 NICS checks pushed passed 11 million. In 2008 NICS checks passed 12 million, and then hit the 14 million mark in 2009. They increased slightly (4 percent) through 2011.” We’ve all seen these familiar statistics that have shown consistently that as gun sales rise, crime rates drop. These are no surprise to us since we understand that an armed society is a polite society.
Nathan: Amen! Assuming this is really the case, and that the reason for the official numbers going down is not either (a) people have given up even reporting or (b) the cops are lying even to themselves, this is obvious to libertarians and even conservatives. But people are really willing to be blind to the obvious: GUNS SAVE LIVES. GUNS STOP CRIME – IF IN THE HANDS OF PRIVATE CITIZENS.
Medical
Study: Smoking tobacco “rots” the brain
(The Raw Story) “In a study published Sunday in the scientific journal Age and Aging, researchers discovered that regular exposure to tobacco smoke caused significant declines in cognitive performance among older people who had elevated cardiovascular risk factors like high blood pressure. Researchers asked 8,800 people over age 50 to take a series of memory tests, which were repeated four years later, and again eight years later. They found that any risk factor which elevates the chance of stroke or heart attack causes mental degradation.” (11/26/12)
Nathan: Personal opinion? The rot starts a LONG time before “old age” – and there is a certain degree of “mental degradation” that gets someone to do more than light up that first cancer stick, too. I have seen the declines in a fair number of people who continue to smoke as they get older. However, tobacco is one of the many substances that man abuses, ignoring the many good purposes that tobacco and its ingredients can be used for. Government, of course, will use this as an excuse to hammer something that they have decided is evil.